“Listening as a practice, an approach, a natural responsiveness to life, is an incredible opportunity, because we’re living in a time marked by separation and disconnection and disharmony and discord, and listening connects and re-connects and deepens and unifies, on so many levels.” Hilary Hart
Gatherings for those of us longing to restore our relationship with ourselves, each other, Earth and the other than human world. We can co-create a gathering to meet the requirements of your group. Whatever our particular focus, the invitation is always to start paying careful attention: to listen with an intention to hear, receive, hold and give, each in its own time – and not to fill the space with quick fixes.
Throughout, we honour the power of silence as a doorway to deep listening. Silence opens us to mystery, to the infinite potential within ourselves and within life, and can reconnect us to a fountain of joy and creative life-force. It creates space for, invites in and nurtures what’s wanting to be come alive in and through us. What emerges when we really listen is often surprising, different from anything we could have predicted or come up with on our own. Listening is a way to “make our relations with the world sacred again”.
“We must honor that listening is a personal pilgrimage that takes time and a willingness to circle back. With each trouble that stalls us and each wonder that lifts us, we are asked to put down our conclusions and feel and think anew. Unpredictable as life itself, the practice of listening is one of the most mysterious, luminous, and challenging art forms on Earth.” Mark Nepo
Practices we explore to help us reconnect to what’s essential in life: gratitude, simplicity, walking, breathing, food, community, beauty, prayer and awareness of death.
Principles that facilitate our time together:
❧ co-creating a non-hierarchical space; giving equal turns and attention; taking time to build safety and trust
❧ listening with genuine interest, respect, encouragement, and appreciation – and without interruption
❧ trusting silence; not over-talking things; holding a space in which what lies between us, beyond and beneath our words, ideas and plans, can be included
❧ listening to our hearts and our bodies, as well as our minds; listening on a gut level; listening to intuition; listening to longing; listening to dreams; listening to each other, and to life all around us
❧ welcoming diverse identities and perspectives; speaking for ourselves (“I” not “we” or “they”), drawing on our own life experiences and avoiding generalisations
❧ fostering an inner and outer sense of spaciousness and ease; resisting the urge to rush or to push; allowing each step of the process to reveal itself and gently nurturing whatever emerges; being patient
❧ cultivating attitudes that keep us open and receptive like kindness, generosity, empathy, reverence and trust; integrating our deepest heart-felt experiences with our insights and ideas and having them infuse whatever we do
❧ remembering that energy follows intention – what we put our energy into is what we’re creating; noticing what we’re focusing on, listening to, and listening for
❧ adopting an attitude of ‘not-knowing’; letting go of being an expert; staying open and humble
❧ asking responsive, discerning, insightful questions; examining our attitudes and assumptions and identifying the ones that keep us re-enacting outworn, limiting patterns
❧ weaving time outdoors, meditation/prayer, music, imagery, poetry, creative writing/reflective journaling into the process
❧ freely sharing information; prioritising relationships and meaning over concrete outcomes
❧ expecting the unexpected; being willing to make mistakes
❧ following what feels vital, playful and freeing; releasing joy; celebrating
“Silence isn’t the absence of something but the presence of everything.” Gordon Hempton